This Week’s Yellow Flag Collective Tarot Reading : Clinging for attention is not my truth.

Hi, I’m Liz and I’m super excited to be jointing the team here at Risk2rebirth!! Let me introduce myself! I’m 33 years old from California. For the past five years, I’ve been deeply committed to working on my own mental health navigating healing, boundaries, and self-discovery. Tarot has been one of my favorite tools along the way.

For me, tarot cards are not about predicting the future. They’re here to reflect what we already know deep down, to shine a light on patterns, and to offer guidance for our next step forward. Think of them as mirrors, not crystal balls.

And remember: if this reading doesn’t resonate, don’t force it. As they say, “If it doesn’t apply, let it fly.” Take only what feels true and supportive, and leave the rest.

🟨 Yellow Flag of the Week

This week’s yellow flag is an emotional one: “I’m getting clingy to get attention, but this is not actually who I am.”

This is for the collective of readers here meaning, it’s for anyone reading this now who feels it lands.

Below is the spread I pulled, along with how it speaks to this theme.

Overview

Theme: “Clinging for attention is not my truth.”

Use this reading as a mirror when you notice the yellow-flag feeling (“I’m getting clingy to get attention”), read each position as if it’s speaking to you and also to the shared human pattern in this readership.

1. The Yellow Flag: What specific emotional trigger is surfacing right now? The Hierophant

Short summary: The yellow flag is that you’re reaching for acceptance through conformity, rules, or an external “ought.”

In-depth: The Hierophant flags a need for belonging that’s structured: tradition, roles, expectations, “how things are done.”

For the collective this says: the clingy move often looks like trying to be the “right” person the dutiful, respectable, wise, or approved person  because that role has historically guaranteed acceptance.

The Hierophant’s warning is the subtle one: you equate safety and worth with fitting the mold or following an external code. So attention seeking becomes a performance of obedience or correctness rather than a heartfelt request.

How it shows up: Over-apologizing to fit in; repeating phrases or behaviors you’ve seen get approval; hiding parts of yourself that feel “nonconforming.” Seeking not necessarily loud applause but the quiet nod of the authority/peer you want to belong to.

Shadow / Lesson: The shadow is moralizing yourself (“I should be fine without attention”) or using rules to avoid vulnerability. The lesson is to notice when your behaviour is driven by “should” instead of “I need.”

Practical Prompts:

• Ask: “Whose approval am I actually chasing right now?” Name a person, institution, or inner voice.

• When you feel the urge to perform, pause and label it: “This is Hierophant energy seeking approval.”

• Micro action: Choose one small authenticity (a phrase, a small style tweak, a boundary) to test being “not perfect” but still safe.

2. The Mask: How this clinginess is disguising itself or playing out in behavior.

The Hermit + Five of Swords (Reversed)

Short summary: The “mask” is lone-wisdom and withdrawal used as cover, plus a quiet tug toward reconciliation or self-justification.

In-depth: The Hermit looks like spiritual distance, quietness, or the “I’m above it” stance. Paired with Five of Swords reversed (which leans toward release, apology, or the end of petty battles), the mask here is complex: on the surface you may appear introspective, independent, or “mysterious” which can be an attractive, dignified posture but underneath it can be doing one of two things (sometimes both)

1. Withdrawing to attract: creating distance so others will reach toward you (a subtle clinginess strategy disguised as self-sufficiency).

2. Reframing conflict: performing moral superiority or quiet humility as a way to avoid messy vulnerabilities — and maybe keeping an internal ledger (“I did the mature thing, so I deserve attention”).

How it shows up: Long silences that function like tests, “I don’t need anything” statements that actually beg to be disproven, being stoic until someone chases you. Or the olive branch that is offered only to prove you’re the bigger person, not because you’re peaceful.

Shadow / Lesson: The Hermit-mask can protect you temporarily but prevents honest contact. Five of Swords reversed asks: are you actually ready to let go of winning and be openly human?

Practical Prompts:

• Check: “Am I withdrawing to protect a wound, or to get a reaction?” If the latter, name the need.

• Practice one straightforward, non-manipulative reach (e.g., “I miss you” or “Can we talk?”) and watch response without pre-judgment.

• Journal: list three things you avoid saying that would make you feel seen — then pick one to say in a low-risk context.

3. The Truth of Me: The deeper fear, wound, or belief fueling this reaction. What my authentic self is actually craving/valuing underneath. Death (Reversed)

Short summary: The authentic self is on the edge of transformation but resisting letting go of what’s familiar.

In-depth: Death reversed is not doom!

It’s  resistance to change. For the collective readers this card says the truth under

the clingy behavior: you actually want to evolve into someone who doesn’t need attention as proof of worth, but you’re clinging to familiar roles, rituals, relationships, or identity pieces because they feel known and “safe.” There’s a longing for rebirth (to be freer, more self-sourced) but fear that letting things go will leave you empty or unlovable.

How it shows up: Feeling stuck in an identity (“I’m always the caregiver,” “I’m the entertainer,” “I’m the fixer”) even when it no longer serves you. Trying to stop the pattern but slipping back into it because the unknown looks scarier than the same old drama.

Shadow / Lesson: The shadow is stagnation: wanting the fruits of transformation without doing the inner ending-work. The lesson is incremental release: small deaths, not dramatic abdications.

Practical Prompts:

• Write the name of one behavior or identity you can safely let go of for one week; commit to the boundary and report back (to yourself).

• Ritual: symbolically “lay to rest” the small thing (write it, fold it, put it under a stone) as sign you mean to change.

• Ask: “If I allowed this part of me to transform, what would I gain?” Let the answers be practical (more time, calmer nights) not just ideal.

4. The Root: The deeper fear, wound, or belief fueling this reaction. Queen of Pentacles

Short summary: The need for tangible security, nurture, and usefulness underlies the pattern.

In-depth: The Queen of Pentacles roots this whole pattern in a practical, material, and caretaking sort of wound. For readers, that means the attention-seeking often comes from needing to be seen as useful, productive, reliable because, historically, that’s how you were loved or kept safe.

Love and validation were given as a reward for caretaking, practical competence, or being the source of comfort. So the clinginess is not airy pity-seeking but a grounded worry: If I stop being useful or present this way, will I still be cared for?

How it shows up: Over-functioning in relationships, measuring love by deeds and care, needing confirmation through practical reciprocation (help with tasks, gifts, stability). Anxiety about material security or being “taken care of” can be expressed as emotional clinginess.

Shadow / Lesson: The shadow is conflating worth with productivity or caretaking. The lesson is to build internal resourcefulness: nurture yourself so you don’t have to barter attention.

Practical Prompts:

• Make a small, daily “Queen of Pentacles” self-care ritual (cook one nourishing meal, tend a plant, plan one financial micro-step) to build inner security.

• Boundary exercise: say no to one caretaking request this week and notice how you feel and what others do.

• Affirmation: “I am provisioned; my worth is not earned by what I give away.”

5. The Shift: How to redirect this energy toward healthy self-expression

The Chariot + Page of Swords (Reversed) + Nine of Swords (Reversed)

Short summary: Move decisively, but without petty defensiveness and allow anxious patterns to soften.

In-depth: This trio is the action plan. The Chariot is purposeful movement: harness your will, align intentions, and steer toward self-mastery. The Page of Swords reversed is a warning about communication: don’t let nervous, immature, or snarky impulses drive your words (that can reignite clinginess or create drama).

The Nine of Swords reversed is the hopeful ending of sleepless anxiety it indicates the collective is capable of releasing the worst of the worry if you choose different actions.

How it looks in practice: The Chariot says: take a concrete step that proves to yourself you can be stable and self-directed (e.g., set a boundary, start a small project that’s for you alone). Page Swords reversed says: keep the messaging clear, calm, and mature avoid trolling, guilt-tripping, dramatics, or passive-aggression. Nine of Swords reversed says: if you do this, the nights of fretting ease.

Practical step-by-step (three moves to shift):

1. Name & Aim (Chariot): Identify one trigger and the one small goal you’ll steer toward (“When I feel ignored, I will do X instead”). Make the goal specific and time-limited.

2. Mind the Mouth (Page Swords R): Decide how you’ll communicate the change calm, factual, without aiming to punish or score points. Script a one-sentence reply for the trigger situation and keep to it.

3. Unravel Anxiety (9 of Swords R): Use one anxiety-releasing tool nightly (short journaling: 5 things done well that day; breathwork; a 10-minute walk) to reduce the loop that fuels clinginess.

Quick tools: “Chariot micro-practice” three intentional actions in a row (a) send a neutral-check-in text, (b) do a one-minute breath reset, (c) do a tiny private act of self-care. Repeat when triggered.

6. The Anchor: The mindset or action that helps me stand in my truth this week

The Sun

Short summary: Your steadying truth is clarity, play, and self-acceptance.

Joy without needing proof.

In-depth: The Sun as anchor is beautiful: it promises a baseline of warmth and validation that comes from within. For the readership collective, The Sun says your most reliable resource is simple clarity and honest radiance: being visible because you enjoy being seen, not because you need the other to validate your existence. It’s the restorative light after the heaviness of fear and performance.

How to anchor in it: Choose small joyful practices that are explicitly not about others’ approval: singing in the shower, making something imperfectly, dancing for two minutes, basking in sunlight, or sharing something without monitoring likes. These acts re-teach the nervous system what being seen for joy feels like vs being seen out of need.

Practical Prompts:

• Morning Sun minute: stand in sunlight (or lamp), state: “I am enough.”

• Joy experiment: create or share one thing this week purely for fun no monitoring of responses.

Bottom of the Deck: The overall lesson the collective is learning from this pattern

Wheel of Fortune (Reversed)

Short summary: The pattern will keep repeating until you choose agency; don’t blame fate.

In-depth: Wheel reversed is the deep learning edge here: cycles are stalled or repeating. It’s the karmic “we keep arriving at the same scenario.” For the readership collective that means well-worn loops (attention patterns, caretaking-for-approval) will keep appearing until the cycle is consciously interrupted.

This card asks you to stop outsourcing responsibility to “bad luck” or “people always being the same” and instead apply the Chariot’s agency.

The reverse also warns against expecting a sudden external shift; change will be gradual and requires you to stop enacting the pattern.

Practical Counsel:

• If you find yourself saying “this always happens to me,” replace it with: “this has happened often; what one thing can I do differently now?”

• Use the Chariot moves repeatedly; the Wheel will turn when patterns meet new actions.

How it all plays together for the collective

1. Trigger identified (Hierophant): You’re driven by an internalized rulebook: to belong, to be “proper,” or to be useful. That’s the yellow flag. That’s  the trigger.

2. Mask deployed (Hermit + 5 of Swords R): You withdraw, or perform stoic wisdom sometimes to protect, sometimes to provoke and you may offer conciliatory moves that are more about reputation than reconnection.

3. True desire but stuck (Death R): Deep down you long to transform to stop needing attention as a currency, but you cling to identity and familiarity.

4. Why you cling (Queen of Pentacles): The root is practical: security, nurture, and being valued for usefulness. You’ve learned to get love by giving care.

5. How to change (Chariot / Page Swords R / 9 of Swords R): The path is active and disciplined: choose targeted, steady actions; communicate clearly and without drama; and do the emotional work (small nightly practices) that softens anxiety.

6. What keeps you safe (The Sun): Anchor the work in joy, self-acceptance, and playful visibility not as a reward, but as a baseline.

7. Warning/Lesson (Wheel R): This loop will repeat unless you take conscious different steps. Don’t wait for “luck”; steer.

Practical week plan for the collective (playbook)

• Morning (Sun): 1 minute gratitude + one small joyful action (sing, stretch).

• When triggered (Hierophant moment): Pause, breathe 3 counts, ask “whose approval?” Then use the Chariot micro-practice (name → one small action → grounding breath).

• Communication rule (Page Swords R tech): If you feel reactive, write a 1-sentence message and wait 30 minutes before sending. If it still says what you want, send.

• Night (9 of Swords R tool): 5-minute “done” list write 3 things you did that supported you today. Does not have to be big.

• Weekly (Death R release): A tiny letting-go ritual: name one thing to release and symbolically put it away (paper under a stone, tuck in a box).

Journaling prompts to use right now

• Which rule or “should” am I most often following to get love? (Hierophant)

• When I withdraw, am I avoiding or attracting? Give a recent example. (Hermit + 5 of swords R)

• What part of me is scared to die so badly that it keeps me stuck? (Death R)

• Where do I barter love for care or usefulness? (Queen of Pentacles)

• What one small action can I take this hour that proves I can stand without attention? (Chariot)

• What brings me simple sunshine right now? (The Sun)

This weeks affirmation to carry with you

“I choose steady action over old loops. I can be useful and still belong without proving myself. I rest in my own light.”

🌞 Closing Thoughts

The clinginess you might feel this week isn’t proof of weakness it’s a signal. Your soul is asking for reassurance, connection, and joy, but the path to getting those things doesn’t have to be self-betrayal or performance. You have the power to rewrite the script, one honest step at a time.

If this resonated with you, I’d love to hear how you notice this yellow flag showing up in your life and how you’re choosing to shift it this week. 💛

Your worth is not a reward. It’s your birthright.

Aśe

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🌻Until next week, take care of your light, and let it shine because it’s yours, not because someone else notices it, but because you do. 🌻

All My love, Liz